Luckily for us both, neither of us are the 'bar/club going on a regular basis' kind of people. Now I am talking about a friend that I talk on the phone to and interact regularly with. So she keeps sending snapchats.. but wont text/call me. Help should I stay with him or not and it has been four long years that we have been together. jwrunner81 My advice - Hangout with your friends, go places that interest you without him and make sure he knows your having fun without him but don't rub it in his face. I wouldn't meet a girl at a bar alone, either. Best way to contact ex-gf after 1+ months of No Contact? So, with that being said, if he wants to go out with his buddy once a week, its fine. "[I]f you find your partner making excuses to not have sex and instead they pleasure themselves or watch porn, this may be a sign something is up with your relationship," Hershenson says. React Reply Cleveland Follow Explorer Age: 36 , mho 37% +1 y If he can go out so can you. Yes, crazy to let someone else's actions that do not directly affect you upset you. I am sorry, it is hard to deal with, i know. She puts relationship on hold. I do not care at all. Sorry if I'm completely out of line, it's J. that I've known so many people who've ruined their relationships over situations like this. xx. (You won't be happy if your wife is gone every night.) If your partner doesn't seem interested in having you involved in trip planning or is actively working on plans for trips without you, that could be a sign that something's going on,. He asked it so much I feel he was thinking I was lying to him. Why boyfriend doesn't call? That's called a rule change. The cost should be reasonable, or if not, that money can go to a nice trip for the both of you or for your family trip. I'm in the same situation. On weekends I don't have my kids, I . I see both sides here. So I dont think there would be problems. . Of course I was a little disappointed but then he got mad and I had to accept it because I didn't want to lose him. I agree with you on the money issue. We don't even spend that time out drinking. But I get it. Well, people who babysit seem to be scarce where we live so yes we go out to bars with friends and not each other. Often she would be out till 2am or so.. I mean I'd understand if he were a shady person, but he's not. if its a guys night out and its like 10 buddys sure, if hes going by himself, somethings a foot.Going out with your buddys is homosocial behavior, A typical of men. If my husband is going on a site visit alone with herhe usually tells M.J. in case I get a call he is out and about with a young blonde female that is not M.lol. I wouldn't put a gun I was cleaning up to my head and pull the trigger, even if I had already taken the bullets out of it. It doesn't bother my husband. Nice. So I decided to grab a drink at the local dive bar that I love. That, combined with him expressing a desire to do MORE of this bar-going WITHOUT ME and spending less time with mePLUS he comes back from the bar, telling me about girls that are hot for himit's giving me some serious issues that are threatening our relationship. I actually encourage my husband to go out with his friends though.. Tinder, the popular dating app, is no longer just for hookups. my heart goes out to u, its so hard coz if u keep bringin up the subject u dont want to come across as clingy or needy, im in the same boat myself and i just confronted him lastnight, i ended up finishin it, which now i regret, if u intend to bring it up again with him be ready for the consequences. He just wants you to look the other way. It isn't driven by insecurity. My issue here is probably from my past. nah. I on the other hand don't know a single woman who is attracted to other women. HE needed the excitement is what he told M.. Good luck. To hook up. See how he likes it. Does my husband go out to bars without M.? My ex cheated on M. once and i had him on a very short leash for a while. I don't seek them out for conversation or flirt with them. Yes I go out without my husband and he without M. in mixed company. and i understand exactly what youre saying but when you do talk to him you have to have to bring up his drinking and your concern of him not calling. It is a neighborhood place that serves beer and wine.. but also burgers and stuff. Yes. i don't need or want attention from other men. I do think it is okay to have opposite sex friends. I've seen a lot of posts on here recently about whether its ok for a married or committed person to go to lunch/bar with single person of the opposite sex (or same gender depending on preference) and it had M. wondering if you guys/girls ever go to a bar or an establishment where other singles are and talk to new people? But it got old. It would be one thing if your SO is telling you where you can and cannot go. What does it take to stop running into these types of people? I think there is a huge difference when hanging out with friends is taking up more time than hanging out with family. The funny thing was it was that attitude of his that I think made him sleep around. (Even if we've J. I have issues with my bf going to the bar because my ex is an alcoholic. You don't want to make it awkward and post up at the bar, quietly waiting. If you're insecure, you'll get upset if he talks to his family 50% of the time instead of spending 100% of it holding your hand. I'm a very sporadic patron of this bar. When you're young it's fun, but at 42 seems a bit pathetic. Some men J. have very flirtatious personalities. Be In Touch with Him. My kuwait he text me day and night but no telphone call. My husband occasionally goes out with friends for a round of golf and then to a bar afterwards, I've never really given it much thought but I also trust him and am not worried. I feel for you. It depends on the context. Um, no. If its an issue with your partner, then you shouldn't do it. He even texts me when he is out, and calls or texts when he gets home. If it becomes a constant thing of going ot the bars all the time and it eats into your time with him, which is what my bf wants to do, then you may have something to worry about. I do what I CHOOSE to do. Both myself and my husband don't drink. A lot. "met" virtually.). But, to each his own! She may be looking for love or just hungry for attention. But its not like we would go kissing others anyways but just saying She went out with the girls one too many times. I am a very touchy feely person. But understand that it is an opportunity for something to happen because you are specifically putting yourself in that situation. This is something we as humans can't help. Started February 23, By So no I wouldn't do that, but I would have an opposite sex friend even in a committed relationship if it was okay with all parties involved. But most the time we are notbothered or left alone after we tell them we are married. J. my opinion but it isn't for us. He has no outside friends or interests. I guess I'm J. a prude, then, because I believe there are better places to hang out than bars and that if you are married or committed and have children, your time is better spent with them. i want him >, just relax ! Right now, it seems he's being attentive to your needs. But that does not mean, you have to live under a rock. In other words, one can never win when dating an insecure person male or female. We had been friends and pen pals for years. That I trust him to hang out means he can trust that if I say she give M. a bad vibe it isn't because she is pretty, or anything, it is J. something is off. If you're secure and you have a personality, you should largely be able to fend for yourself at a family function. Started Thursday at 07:54 PM, By Just stop expecting him to be your boyfriend. He asked for nothing in return. I do think individuals should have "M. time" and couples should have dates. answers from Chicago on October 30, 2008. Were in a long-distance relation Did he mean to call or did he accidentally call on purpose ? He does not drink and he does not like the smell of smoke and if he wanted to go somewere like that by himself something would be up. Tell him you also have a good time there even when you cannot wait to see him again. We trust each other. I know it might be a challenge but just say hey i love you a lot but im feeling a little troubled lately. FOr M. it will always depend on trust. He knows I'll come home relaxed and happy. I could understand drinking a little too much, but once you reach the level of passing out that borderlines alcoholism. However it's phrased it shows a lack of security or trust. He didn't, not because he couldn't be trusted around other women, but because he was/is an alcoholic. Cables might tangle, and tiny charging pods can disappear, but if they're all organized and in one place with this gadget organizer, you can relax. That's right. Warning signs that your male partner is emotionally controlling you. He goes to bed without me (20 f) now and we sleep back to back. You get worried when you see your partner with someone else. I tried to make friends with the girls, but it didnt help because when he made a comment about how good she looked in the thong, it showed no regard for me. I never expected much because I knew the type of person I was dating. He doesnt have time for meim so depressed and sad. I think the fact that he asked your permission first shows he's being conscientious about your needs and wants. In recent years, the dating world has seen the rise of a new approach to romantic relationships known as "Goblin Mode." my boyfriend and i are long distance and i'm in college. You met him at a bar. <3. But he lets M. dance with who ever when we go out J. so he doesn't have to get out on the floor. My husband and his friends will have a "guys" weekend once a year. It seems like you really enjoy the attention so maybe your current relationship isn't up to par? he knows you get hurt by what he does but still continues partying like someone who's single. To M. that is not a friendship. Waiting outside the bar for your friends is also weird. "Not including you in family events is a pretty good indicator that your partner has checked out of the relationship," Theresa Herring, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Romper in an email exchange. Life doesnt begin at 30, dont let anyone tell you different, I feel hurt and embarassed bec he doesnt reply to my text. I'm married. Nearly everyone is guilty of giving their phone or other electronics too much attention from time to time, but if your partner is always so entrenched in what's going on elsewhere, it could be because they're no longer invested in what's going on between the two of you. Davidgrx To an insecure girlfriend, she might assume guys' nights consist of heading to the strip club, then going to a seedy rub-and-tug afterward. My friends are like family to M. and I get so much warmth and strength from them. Well, amazing how a six year old post gets a reply but upon reading, as much as six months ago someone needed clarification. New episodes air Mondays on Facebook. but i would if i wanted to. The Desperado is a frequent fixture at the bar. My husband and I both worked at bars, so we're very secure with our marriage.. In the past he would ask me if he can go out with his friend to the bar because he knew I get very nervous. Your feelings are valid. In response, scientists have been working to develop new opioids that can provide effective pain relief without the risks associated with traditional opioids. I LOVE to dance!! Family events are typically things that the two of you should attend together, especially if you're in a long-term, committed relationship. So my boyfriend is becoming much more distant as of late. You sill have a life and are not a Siamese twin with your spouse. Bars are not not my scene. I love him but he doesn't seem to put any effort. What does it mean when a man call & text you several times every day eventh My Boyfriend doesn't like if I call him from his name. ***My hubby used to get mad when we'd be out for drinks together and he'd go to the bathroom and come back and find a guy talking to M.. I have more guy friennds than girlfriends. To M., that is playing with fire. **Updated, Discussion-Having Single Friends When Married. Probably. We met online and rea Why does he text me all day about sweet things and stuff but never call? So *would* I go to a bar w/out my spouse? "I guess it depends from one man to another. As social media continues to grow in popularity, more and more people are turning to platforms like TikTok for mental health advice. 10. The answer is to behave appropriately while there. Be Patience: The most important thing after communicating is remembering to be patient. If I wanted to go out to a bar with a bunch of girlfriends my husband would tell M. to have a good time and same for himthey guys go for a drink after work, sure join them (J. let M. know so I don't have dinner waiting). You know honestly im sure it depends on the person. To get drunk. Mostly for work, like happy hours. It is all because of my trust issue. He needs to tell you everything that He does ? I feel neglected and I don't think I should be treated like this. 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